Why Being ‘Too Much’ Is Better
Love Louder. Hope Louder. Live Louder.
An affectionate letter to every emotional tornado who ever thought they were the problem.
Let me guess.
You’ve been told:
“You care too much.”
“You’re too loud.”
“You’re too emotional, too sensitive, too loud, too passionate.”
You probably cried at the end of Finding Nemo. You’ve likely sent long messages that start with “I know this might sound silly but…”. You’ve definitely overthought a conversation from three days ago. And somewhere along the way, you wondered:
Would life be easier if I just… toned it all down?
Here’s my firm, heartfelt, lovingly dramatic response:
Please don’t.
Being “too much” is actually a gift. Just badly marketed.
See, the world isn’t suffering from an oversupply of emotional people.
It’s suffering from disconnection. Disengagement.
Polished replies with no real substance.
People who ghost instead of talk.
People who scroll instead of feel.
People who choose cool over kind.
So if you’re the kind of person who still shows up with heart,
who cries when the moment hits,
who says “I love you” too often and texts back too fast —
you are not the problem.
You are the cure.
The world needs more “too much”
More people who:
laugh loudly in restaurants
say “I miss you” without shame
hug like they mean it
cry during cheesy commercials
get excited about little things
feel things deeply and don’t apologize for it
You being “too much” is the emotional equivalent of vitamin D in a fluorescent world.
But what if I get hurt?
You will.
You’ll care more than the other person sometimes.
You’ll overinvest.
You’ll be misunderstood, judged, ghosted, maybe even mocked.
(Welcome to the Overfeelers Anonymous club — we meet weekly, and yes, there are snacks.)
But I promise:
That pain is still better than the numbness of never feeling anything real.
People who live from the heart don’t avoid heartbreak — they transcend it.
Because even after it breaks, they keep showing up.
Loving. Trusting. Connecting.
Not because it’s safe. But because it’s true.
Being “too much” means you’re still alive in a world that’s half-asleep
It means you haven’t numbed out.
You haven’t hardened.
You still notice the sky.
You still believe in people.
You still send “thinking of you” messages without needing a reason.
And I don’t care what anyone says —
that is rare.
And it is beautiful.
So no, don’t become less.
Become more.
More sincere.
More open.
More expressive.
More honest.
More connected.
Because the world doesn’t need less you.
It needs all of you — in all your glorious, expressive, heart-wide-open too-muchness.
Be the one who loves loud.
Be the one who feels big.
Be the one who sends 3-minute voice notes that start with “Okay this might be a lot but…”
Because in a world afraid of feeling —
you are a revolution.
And trust me on this:
you’re not “too much.”
You’re just enough — for the right people.